Her dowry stored with a friend went missing
She left her dowry with a trusted friend before studying abroad. When she returned, the friend said she had no memory of it.
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Client
How to resolve and improve things; question 2: Before I went to the US to study in August 2021, I left my dowry temporarily at the home of a close friend I trusted very much, at [redacted][redacted]. Now I'm back in the country and asking her to return it. This dowry is extremely important to me, but she says she doesn't remember this happening, and can't find it either. I want to know if these dowry items can eventually be found, and how long it will take.
何化解和提升；问题2: 2021年8月前我去美国求学前把自己的嫁妆暂放在非常信任的闺蜜家里，地址在[redacted][redacted]，现在我回国了找她要回来，这个嫁妆对我非常之重要，但是她说不记得有这事，且也找不到了，我想知道最后是否能找到这些嫁妆，多久找到。
That's all my questions, thank you.
就这些问题 谢谢
Zongyuan
Guard against fire, guard against theft, guard against close friends.
防火防盗防闺蜜
4月19日 15:45
Client
Ah... this, sigh. I'm even the godmother of her daughter. We've known each other for over ten years, and her family was even better off than mine. I never thought it would be like this. Besides, she's a well-known Chinese studies teacher in Shanghai, and a Buddhist. It's also my fault for being too trusting.
啊。。。。。这，哎 我还是她女儿的干妈，认识十几年了，本来家境比我都还好的。我没想到会是这样，而且她还是上海知名国学老师，信佛的。也怪我有侥幸心理
Zongyuan
I'll look into it tomorrow and get back to you.
明天我看了回你
Client
Okay.
好的
Zongyuan
Wushen 2028: Both wealth and reputation will come together. Your career will make great progress this year, and the channels for wealth will also open up. You'll have strong execution and high efficiency. The whole year basically follows a pattern of more work, more gain, and your luck will be especially good in the second half of the year.
Now about your dowry:
[redacted]
1. It has already been hidden away. The person you mentioned hasn't forgotten; she remembers but is lying.
2. Wood under earth: insufficient evidence. You probably didn't have a clear written record of the safekeeping, or a list of the items' quantity. The evidence isn't strong enough to support your claim.
3. The Kun hexagram is overall static. You don't have much desire to fight right now, and you don't want to completely fall out with her. In the end, it will most likely end up unresolved.
4. But I suggest you have less contact with this person in the future, and never leave things in someone else's care or entrust them with matters again. Your BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny) configuration is like this: the people who help you and the people who harm you or take advantage of you are the same group. The people who hurt you are always the ones you trust. So it's better to handle things on your own.
戊申2028
财名两全，本年事业进步大，且财运
的通道也打开了，人的执行力强，且
效率高，全年基本是多劳多得的走势，
下半年的运气会尤其好。
其次是你嫁妆的事情：
[redacted]
1 已经被私藏，且你说的这个人不是忘
记，是记得但是撒谎。
2 木在土下，证据不足，你当时应该
也没有明确的文书要求保管，或者说
明物体数量，证据支撑力度不够。
3 坤卦全局静态，你现在抗争的想法
也不大，也不想彻底撕破脸，最后多
数不了了之。
4 但是建议这个人以后少来往，且不
要再有给人保管，托付的事儿。你的
八字配置是这样，帮你的人和害你的
人或者坑你的人是同一拨，伤害你的
都是你信任的人，那么情愿就是自己
做事了。
Please take this.
请收
4月20日 10:09
Client
Thank you, Zongyuan.
谢谢猫猫道长
But when you mentioned being cheated out of money, I did get scammed out of a small sum of money by this goddaughter's mother's husband at the end of 2023. At that time he asked me to borrow money remotely, but I didn't know he had already gone bankrupt, and that the goddaughter's mother had divorced him. Because I considered us very close, I lent him the money, but after that the man wouldn't pay it back. When I found out about the divorce, I went to the goddaughter's mother, and she very readily paid back the money for him. This incident actually made me trust the goddaughter's mother even more [emoji]. I never expected things to turn out like this now.
但你说到被骗钱财，我确实在23年底
被我这个干女儿妈妈的老公骗了一笔
小财（当时他远程找我借钱，但是我
不知道他已经破产，干女儿妈妈跟他
离婚了，也因为考虑到是很亲近的关
系就借了但此后这男的不还）。知道
离婚了我才找干女儿妈妈她很爽快替
这男的还了。也因为这个事情再次加
深我对干女儿妈妈信任[emoji]，没想到现在
这样
I was also planning to sell this dowry to pay off my study abroad debts, so I'm very anxious about it.
我这个嫁妆也是打算卖了，还留学债
务的，所以我很着急
Zongyuan
That's exactly what I meant.
就是这意思
Client
I get it now. I finally understand what it means that the people who help me and the people who harm me are the same group... But actually I have quite a lot of friends. I was even able to study abroad because good friends pooled money to lend me (the goddaughter's mother didn't lend money, she just helped keep my belongings). So I never thought they would harm me. Besides the money, the emotional hurt is also pretty big.
懂了，终于懂了什么叫帮我的和害我
的是同一拨人。。。。。但是我其实
朋友挺多的，能出国留学也是好朋友
们集资借我的钱（干女儿妈妈没有借
只是帮忙保管财物），所以我没想到
他们会害我，除了钱之外，情感被伤
害也挺大
Zongyuan
Mm.
嗯
A lot of things are fated.
很多事也是命定
Client
Okay, if it's fate I'll accept it.
好，是命我就认
Also, is there any way to make her give me the belongings or the money? In our last conversation, she said she really doesn't remember keeping my dowry for me, but if I insist, she can compensate me with a sum of money, and we can discuss the amount. Does she not even want to pay me the money? She knows how important these items are to me.
另外有什么办法能让她把财物或者钱
给我么？她最后沟通下来意思是说她
真不记得帮我保管了嫁妆，但是如果
我应要，她可以陪我一笔钱，这个钱
我们俩商量。难道她连钱也不想陪我？
她知道这些物品对我有多重要。
Zongyuan
This is the lesson you learn from a setback. From what I see, the things might even have been resold already. She won't give you much money either, [redacted]
这就是吃一堑长一智的堑，东西我看
着甚至都可能转手了，钱上也给不了
多少，[redacted]
Take the money and just stop having contact with her.
拿了钱反正就是不来往了
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Wear a [redacted] keychain or phone charm for yourself.
你给自己带一个[redacted]钥匙
扣或者手机链
It will help.
会有帮助
Client
Mm-hmm, I guessed they were probably sold. I even asked her if it was her ex-husband who left with nothing in the divorce, and she said no. She even gaslighted me, saying my things weren't worth much. I asked other girlfriends, and just the gold bracelet my mom gave me is worth 20,000 yuan now.
嗯嗯，我猜到估计是卖了，我还问了
她是不是她当时离婚净身出户的老公，
她还说不会的，PUA我说我这些东西
不值多少钱。我问了其他小姐妹，光
我妈给的那条金手链现在就值2W
Zongyuan
Mm.
嗯
Client
Okay. Is next month a good time to do this? She knows I'm going back to New York at the end of May, and I won't be back until next year.
好的，下个月适合做这个事情么？她
知道我5月底就回纽约了，下次再回来
就是明年了
Zongyuan
Ask her for it, take the money and leave.
问她要，拿钱走人
Next month is suitable.
下个月合适
Client
Really?? Thank you, Zongyuan!!!
真的么？？谢谢猫猫道长！！！
Zongyuan
Mm. But there will be arguments this year. Don't be afraid of disputes.
嗯 但是今年有口舌，不要害怕争执
Be a little firmer. For example, threaten to expose her or tell people about it.
稍微强硬点，比如威胁或者告诉她曝
光她
Client
Hi Zongyuan, it's been a while since I got back to New York. I came specifically to give you feedback. The dowry matter is mostly resolved. The goddaughter's mother agreed to compensate me with money plus items of equivalent value. In the end she gave me 49,000 yuan and [redacted]. But anyway, I got compensation, which is pretty good. It was indeed resolved in May, fairly smoothly. And she still wouldn't admit to the end that I left things at her house. She even called her ex-husband over to confront me about it, but I didn't expect her husband to also say the items were at their house back then, and even gave details. That directly made her willing to pay back the money.
猫猫道长好 我回纽约有段时间了特地来跟你反馈一下。嫁妆的事情算解决了一大部分，我干女儿妈妈同意赔偿是钱+等价物品最后给我了4.9w 并[redacted] 但是总归赔偿了还算挺好的确实也是5月份解决的还算顺利。然后她最后都不承认放她家了，她为此还把离了婚的老公叫来说可以对峙，没想到她老公也说就在他们家的当时说的还有细节。这直接导致她愿意还钱
About my wealth luck: the second half of this year has indeed been better than the first half. I hope things will go as you've pointed out from now on. Also, [redacted] I've prepared and worn it, and things have indeed been smoother than before, and I feel more at ease too.
关于我的财运，今年下半年确实比上半年强一些，希望以后都按猫猫道长所指点吧，然后[redacted]也都准备了戴了以后确实比之前顺，心里也舒服一些
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Zongyuan
Pretty good, it went smoothly 👍
挺好的，算是顺利👍
Things will get better and better 🧑
越来越好🧑
Client
Thank you.
谢谢
Another day I'll make an appointment to have you read for my husband.
改天约你算一下我先生