A mother asked about her son's school performance
She asked about her son's academic progress. I told her his self-discipline is weak, and he does better with close family supervision.
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Zongyuan
Looking at the chart, in the Gui Mao year, only the day master Ding Fire drains Wood. The child does not have very strong self-control. There is Chou Earth on the year pillar, which is a point of help — he relies on family members to watch over him. When supervised he can study a little; without supervision he easily lets himself slack off. The Water that emerges from Chou is helpful, it has a constraining effect on Wood. There is an elder in your family who can keep the child in line, let that person set boundaries for him.
修建，见癸卯，只有日主丁火泄木，小孩自制力不算太强强。年上有丑土是贵点，就靠家里人看着，看着能学一点，不看着就容易自我放任。丑里出来的水贵，对于木有收缩重要，你家里有比较能拿捏孩子的长辈，让孩子受约束。
When Metal is strong he studies well, so in 2021 the child did quite well in school, and was likely to receive awards. Starting from 2022 things went downhill. 2022 and 2023 were both average, his mind was not on his studies, he regressed.
金旺就读书好，所以在2021年小孩读书比较出色，还容易有嘉奖，到了2022年开始走下坡路，2022-2023年都一般，心思不在读书上了，退步了。
2024 is the Jia Chen year. The Water in Chen nourishes Wood, and the amount of Earth increases, but there is no restraining effect. Muddled Water leads to mistakes in science subjects. His high school entrance exam results will be just average, no unexpected overperformance, with errors in science. But overall his education level from the BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny) is still acceptable — undergraduate study is not a problem. So the entrance exam is just a step along the way, a middling result is fine, don't set expectations too high.
甲辰年2024，辰中的水浇灌木，土量扩大了，但是没有抑制作用，水混理科上失误了，中考也就是很一般，不能超常发挥，理科还有失误。但是八字整体的学历还是可以的，本科没有问题，所以中考也就走个过程，中不溜也就可以了，不要有太大的期待。
Also, the Gui Mao year has Gui Water nourishing Mao Wood, Water and Wood meet directly. The child has had some mild mental health issues. Starting from the Year of the Dragon (2024) he will improve. Don't put too much pressure on him, just keep things moving at a normal pace.
另外癸卯年是癸水浇灌卯木，水木直接见面了，孩子有点心理问题，龙年开始好转，也不要给太大压力，正常推进就好。
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请收
Client
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It's true he has no self-control. He needs someone to push him for everything, he has no initiative at all.
确实就是自制力不强，干什么都需要别人来鞭策，一点主动性都没有
14:11
Zongyuan
He can get into a school right at the cutoff line, just scrape in 😀
能上个压线的，混混进去😀
2021 was right during the pandemic, and that year was actually pretty good for his studies.
21年刚好是疫情，这年反而还可以
That means the person who supervises him was home every day.
说明管的人天天待着
Client
I'm the typical 'indulgent mother raises a spoiled child' type.
我是那种典型的慈母多败儿
Because when he's at home, his dad is there.
因为他在家，他爹在
Now he's boarding at school, we can't supervise him.
现在在住校，都管不了他
Zongyuan
That's a very clear self-assessment [emoji]
自我认知很明确[emoji]
Client
We see each other once every two weeks.
半个月见一次
Zongyuan
Exactly, it's because you're far apart.
对，就是离得远
😀 Of these three years, only 2021 was reliable for his studies.
😀这三年里只有21年读书靠谱
14:14
His school is not good either, the other kids there are all just messing around.
小孩学校也不好，里面小孩也都混混
14:14
The management is loose.
管理松散
So he has an even easier time slacking off.
所以他混的更舒服了
Client
Mhm mhm mhm, yes, that's exactly how it is.
嗯嗯嗯，对，确实是这样
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Does that mean he'd do better as a day student?
意思是走读会好点？
Zongyuan
Clever.
聪明
14:15
And he needs Chou Earth type people to watch over him.
而且要丑土来看着
Starting from the Si month (fourth lunar month) his studies will pick up a bit, and high school will be steady.
到了巳月读书就上来点，高中就稳妥了
Is his school uniform blue-green?
孩子校服是不是蓝绿色的？
14:16
The person who can supervise him needs to be around to watch him.
能管的那个要来看着
Client
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14:17
Yes.
对
Zongyuan
Mm.
嗯
Have him wear a grey t-shirt underneath his uniform, next to his skin.
贴身穿灰色体恤
Client
The clothes are not good for him, right?
衣服不利他是不是
Zongyuan
Starting next year the yearly energy will gradually get better, which also means the high school environment will be better than it is now.
明年开始年份慢慢好，也说明高中环境
比现在好了
Children easily imitate and assimilate to their surroundings.
小孩容易同化模仿
He is very influenced by his environment.
很受环境影响
Client
So once he gets into high school, things will get better and better after that?
所以他只要上了高中，后面就会越来越
好
Zongyuan
Last year he also had a tendency to swear.
去年还有点骂脏话倾向
Client
He really is like that.
他确实是这样
Zongyuan
He picked it up from others too.
也是学来的
Yes.
是的
Client
Right right right, when he says it in front of me I yell at him, especially when he's playing games.
对对对，在我面前说的话，我会吼他，
特别是打游戏的时候
Zongyuan
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Every sip and every peck is fated.
一饮一啄都是命
Not a bit of it is up to us.
半点不由人
14:30
Client
A lot of the things you meet are carried in your fate.
遇见很多都是命中带
Zongyuan
Mm, the trajectory of fate and our behavior are both driven by the luck pillars and the year chart.
嗯，命运轨迹和行为也是大运流年使然