A child with depression, and the pattern across generations
A client asked about a child with depression. I said the pattern comes from the parents’ side, and the mother needs to change for any relief.
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Client
I’ve been getting a lot of messages from parents of kids with depression lately. Why is that, Zongyuan?
我最近很多忧郁症的孩子的父母联系我，这是什么原因啊师兄
Zongyuan
That’s just how this month is. These two months, your clients will either be people with depression, or people who’ve had abortions for medical reasons.
这月就是这样 这俩月你客户要么是抑郁症 要么是有病打胎的
Client
That’s exactly what I’ve been seeing lately — all medical abortions and depression cases. I almost want to turn the depression ones away.
我最近确实现在都是有病的打胎的，忧郁症的我都想拒绝了
I’m scared I won’t be able to handle them.
我怕自己搞不定
11月6日 17:38
I’ll send you this kid’s BaZi in a minute to take a look.
我等一下把那个孩子的八字发给你看看
Lunar calendar 2011[redacted]
农历 2011[redacted]
11月6日 17:47
Zongyuan
Improvement won’t be obvious for this one. It will start getting better from 2028 after adjustments. It’s up to you whether you take the case.
这个好转不明显，调理后要28年开始见效，看你自己要不要接了
Client
Would a feng shui setup not help either?
布局也没有用吗
Zongyuan
A setup can only keep it from getting worse. But episodes will still happen.
布局只能保证不会再厉害 但是发作还是要发作
It’s carried in the original chart.
原局带的
Client
If I prescribe Chinese herbal medicine for her, do you think it would work?
如果我给她配中药，你看效果会出来不
Zongyuan
This person is an unusual case. They can’t take Chinese herbal medicine.
这个人 是个奇特的案例 不能吃中药
It will get worse if they take it.
吃了就恶化
The family has already tried medicine. Most of it didn’t work.
他们家里是吃过药的 多数没效果
Client
Is it caused by feng shui?
是不是风水引起的呢
Can you see what’s causing it?
可以看到是什么引起的吗
Zongyuan
This is caused by his parents. It’s a kind of karmic illness.
这个是他父母引起的，这个是一种因果病。
Caused by the child’s parents. When a family has unfilial people,
小孩父母引起的 家里出不孝的人
the child gets sick.
小孩就得病
It can only be eased, not cured.
只能缓解 不能好
It will be like this for life.
一辈子就这样
11月6日17:56
Client
What wrong did the parents do
父母造了什么孽啊
that it ends up on the child?
导致在孩子身上
Zongyuan
Disobeying elders. Either hitting or scolding old people, or teachers.
忤逆长辈 要么是打骂老人 老师
Client
Zongyuan, please help set up a feng shui arrangement for this kid.
这个孩子师兄帮忙布个局吧
Even easing the depression a little would be good.
忧郁症缓解一下也是好的
Zongyuan
Did you ask about the child’s parents last time?
上次小孩父母情况问了不
Do they have the kind of situation I mentioned?
有没有我说的这种情况
14:29
Client
The mother does.
母亲有
The disobedience to elders is on the mother’s side.
忤逆长辈是妈妈这边的
14:33
Her mother and her parents
她妈妈和父母
14:34
Zongyuan
Mm, okay.
嗯好
Client
Her mother’s parents also had bad relationships with their own parents.
她妈妈的父母也跟父母也关系不好
Zongyuan
Mm, this is a karmic illness. It passes down through each generation, and eventually lands on the child.
嗯，这个就是因果病，每一代都往下遗传，最后会落在孩子身上。
Client
His mother’s parents also had bad relationships with their own parents
他妈妈
的父母也跟父母也关系不好
Mm-hmm. See if there’s any way to fix this
嗯嗯看看有没有解救办法
Otherwise the child will suffer so much.
不然苦了孩子
The kid’s hands are all covered in scars
孩子手上全是疤
all self-inflicted cuts.
都是自己割的
Zongyuan
Mm, the child is suffering inside too.
嗯，小孩内心也苦
Client
Yes.
是的
That’s why I want so badly to save this child.
所以我太想救这个孩子了
That’s why I had to come to you again, Zongyuan.
所以没办法又来找师兄你了
14:51
Zongyuan
Xinmao [redacted]
The BaZi was born in the Mao month, [redacted] is constrained.
In this BaZi, the mother does not play a positive role.
If you want the child to get better later, the mother must make changes at the same time, and recognize the problem at the root.
辛卯 [redacted]
八字生在卯月，[redacted]受制，
这个八字里面母亲没有起到好作用，
之后如果想要孩子好，母亲要同步做
改变，要从根源上认识到问题。
Client
Yes.
是的
That’s why I want so badly to save this child.
所以我太想救这个孩子了
That’s why I had to come to you again, Zongyuan.
所以没办法又来找师兄你了
14:51
Zongyuan
Xinmao [redacted]
Born in the Mao month, the whole chart has [redacted] constraint.
In this BaZi, the mother does not play a positive role.
If you want the child to get better later, the mother must make changes at the same time, and recognize the problem at the root.
1. First, regarding the matter of disobeying elders — for example, if the mother’s side has this situation, start making amends through actions.
Be caring and visit the elderly. This is not just putting on a show. The more sincere the heart, the better the effect. Send money to parents regularly.
As mentioned earlier, the woman’s parents also had this kind of situation — this is the intergenerational transmission of karma shown in the BaZi.
So every year when visiting graves, do it properly and thoroughly, reflect and apologize.
If conditions allow, renovate the ancestral grave (put new bricks), or clean it up, and plant new trees.
2. In the child’s bedroom [redacted], try to live in a [redacted] room or a [redacted] room.
3. [redacted] contact with the father, and reduce contact with the mother.
If it involves things like homework help, the mother should step back from that role, and let the father or a tutor take over.
The tutor should be female, surname [redacted], [redacted] are best.
辛卯[redacted]
八字生在卯月，全局[redacted]制，
这个八字里面母亲没有起到好作用，
之后如果想要孩子好，母亲要同步做
改变，要从根源上认识到问题。
1先说忤逆长辈这个事情，比如母亲这
边有这样的情况，从行动上先弥补，
对老人要关怀看望，这个不是做做表
面功夫，心越诚，效果越好。定期给
父母打钱。前面讲到女方的父母也有
这种情况，这就是八字展示出来的因
果上的代际遗传，那么就每年上坟的
时候都要认真，到位，要反省认错，
有条件的话祖坟要翻新（贴新砖），
或者擦亮，栽种新的树木。
2 小孩住的房间里面[redacted]，尽
量住[redacted]的屋子或者[redacted]的屋子。
3 [redacted]父亲接触，和母亲的接触
要减少，如果涉及辅导作业之类的，
母亲要从这个角色里撤出来，换父亲
或者家教。家教喜女性，姓氏[redacted]，
[redacted]几个最好。