She asked about her daughter’s mood and family tension
She said her daughter was struggling with low mood, and their family relationships were tense. I noted the patterns in the BaZi chart and when things might ease.
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Zongyuan
Ji Wei, but Wei earth is where wood generates fire, so the capacity is not sufficient. This is especially obvious during the Hai luck pillar. From 2022 to 2023, there were psychological issues, anxiety, depressive feelings, self-deprecation and self-denial. Things start to improve from 2025.
己未，但是未土是木来生火，气量不足，
走亥运特别明显，从2022-2023年这两
年就有心理上的问题，有焦虑，抑郁情
绪，自我贬低，否定，从2025年开始好
转。
[redacted] is about interpersonal relationships and family relationships. In this BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny), Wei earth represents the mother, and You metal represents the father. The father tends to pour cold water on others, speaks without much care, and gives little warmth, though sometimes he means well for the child. The relationship will still be tense in the first half of the year, and will start to improve after the Start of Autumn in the second half. There is consistency between home and outside: in the first half of the year, there will also be conflicts with classmates. She is very sensitive, easily feels targeted, and needs more reassurance from her family.
[redacted]是人际关系与六亲关系
这个八字的未土是母亲，父亲是酉金，
喜泼冷水，讲话容易不注意，温暖比较
少，虽然有时候是为孩子好。上半年还
是关系紧张，下半年立秋之后开始好转。
家内外有一致性，上半年和同学之间也
有矛盾，她很敏感，容易感觉被针对，
也需要家里多宽慰。
Pay attention to the child’s mental health 🌹
关注孩子心理健康🌹
Especially in the first half of this year.
尤其今年上半年
The child is in a bad mood.
孩子心情不好
Client
Yes, we’ve recently been helping her find a therapist for consultation.
对，最近在帮助她找心理医生咨询了
14:41
Zongyuan
👍 Wise parents.
👍明智的父母
The worry is when people cover it up and hide it.
就怕捂着隐瞒
Client
The relationship with her father is tense, and recently my relationship with my husband has also been tense.
和父亲关系紧张，最近我和我先生的关系也紧张
You got it right last time.
被你上次算准了
Fortunately, we are now split between domestic and overseas locations, so we don’t have to see each other every day.
好在我们现在是国内国外两点，可以不用天天见
We’ve lived apart for so many years.
那么多年，两地分居
But the child suffers for it. My husband has a bad temper; when he’s unhappy, he takes it out on the child, says harsh things, and only sticks to his own reasoning.
但是孩子跟着受累，我先生脾气大，一不高兴对孩子发脾气，尽说难听的话讲，只认自己的理
14:43
You also got that right last time.
上次也被你算准了
I was even talking to my daughter today, wondering if divorce would be a kind of relief.
我今天还在和女儿讲，是不是离婚也是种解脱
But then I think, since we live apart anyway, there’s no need to go through the trouble.
但是想着我们两点分居，也不折腾
14:45
I’ll come to you for a divination every year from now on.
到时候，每年都请您算一卦
Like you said, having a heads-up beforehand means you don’t panic.
就像您说的，事先有个预知，心里就不慌张了
Zongyuan
Alright, a quarter of this year has already passed. Keep going 🌹
好，今年已经过了1/4，加油🌹
14:46
Client
Thank you! I’ll come back to you for guidance in the future.
谢谢！以后还来找您指点
I feel more grounded after talking about it.
感觉这么一说，心里有底
So many things can’t be avoided, they’re just fate.
很多事情绕不过天
Zongyuan
When people follow the way of heaven, things get better and better 🌹
人随天走，会越来越好🌹
Client
What people need to do is just keep a normal mind, right?
人需要做的就是平常心嘛？
Zongyuan
Actually, it’s acceptance 😀
实际是接纳😀
Good luck doesn’t come from your own effort; it’s given by heaven, so be grateful often. Don’t complain about bad luck either; that’s also given by heaven. Find ways to act in line with the pattern, so you can move toward good fortune and avoid harm.
好运也不是自己努力来的，是天给的，
常感恩。坏运也不要抱怨，也是天给的，
想办法应象做事。就趋吉避凶
14:53
For example, if a couple’s relationship is not good, just contact each other less 😀
比如夫妻感情不好，就少联络呗😀
Client
You’re right.
你说的没错
My husband and I are 6 years apart, which is a 6-clash. Actually, living in different places now has resolved a lot of it.
我和我先生差6岁，6冲，其实现在我们
异地生活，因此化解了许多
Otherwise, I think we would have gotten divorced long ago.
否则我估计早就离婚了
Zongyuan
You need the 6-clash.
你需要六冲
Client
Me?
我?
14:54
Really?
真的嘛?
Me?
我？
Really?
真的嘛？
Zongyuan
Without the clash, you would have gotten divorced by now.
不冲现在也离婚了
That it can still last means you picked the right husband.
还能持续，就是老公找对了
Client
[emoji]
[emoji]
Zongyuan
Even though there are fights.
虽然也闹
14:54
But it’s holding together.
但维持着
And you can’t deny the help your husband gives, even though your tempers don’t match.
且不能否认老公给的帮助，虽然脾气不合
Look at it objectively.
客观对待
Client
Zongyuan, what you said is so right.
道长您说的太对了
Zongyuan
You just like people born in the year of the Monkey; the more clash, the better.
你就喜欢属猴的，越冲越好
Client
After your guidance, I feel suddenly enlightened.
经您这么一指点，我也豁然开朗了
Zongyuan
We’re all human, made of flesh and blood. Who doesn’t have a temper 😀
人嘛，肉胎凡身谁没脾气😀