House and family

She wanted a divorce after four years of dragging it out

2 September 2025Jinan, Shandong Translated by AI

A client asked when to file for divorce so it would go through, and if her husband would fight for custody or assets.

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Client

My family has a lot of complaints about my marriage too

我这个婚姻，我家里也是很多埋怨

2022年3月7日18:53

We were college classmates

大学同学

We dated for four years

拍拖四年了

Zongyuan

That's quite a long relationship

那交往了也挺久了

Client

So we thought we'd get married

然后就想着结了

Yeah

是呀

But he cheated twice, I don't want to forgive him anymore

因为他也出轨过两次，我不想再原谅了

I know people in your line always advise couples to stay together, not split up

我知道这行都是劝和不劝分

Zongyuan

I think it's still workable for these two years

这两年我觉得还能过

Client

But I don't want to keep委屈 myself / keep putting up with it

但是我不想一直委屈自己

Zongyuan

To be honest, the Bing Wu year won't be good

到了丙午年有一说一不太好

Client

[emoji] So I brought it up but he won't agree

[emoji]所以我提出来他不肯

It's fine, I just want a divorce

没事，我就是想离婚了

Zongyuan, I'd like to trouble you to take a look. I want to get the divorce certificate this year, and my family thinks the same. But the child's father still wants to drag it out. So my mom asked me to find out clearly when is a good time to bring this up so it's more likely to go through, and whether he'll fight me for the child and the family assets. This marriage thing has been going on since 2021, it's been so exhausting dragging it out

猫猫师姐，我想麻烦你帮我看下，我今年想拿离婚证，我家里也是这么想的，但是孩子爸爸还是想拖着，所以我妈想让我问问清楚，什么时候适合提出这件事容易成，再就是会不会跟我抢孩子以及家产，因为婚姻这事从21年到现在了，实在是拖得太辛苦了

2月2日 11:32

Zongyuan

Okay, send me your BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny), I'll look at it when I'm free tonight

好的八字儿发我我晚上空了看

Client

Okay

好的

My BaZi?

我的八字吗

Zongyuan

Yes

对

Client

Okay

好

Zongyuan

The spouse star in your BaZi is the metal within Chou earth. You can get the certificate when [redacted] external earthly branch activates the Chou earth. During the Yi Si year of your chart, you lead the Si branch yourself, but Si has connections both internally and externally, both linked to Chou earth — so it's still not easy to get divorced. In the first half of this year, the Yi wood stem is in effect, which also brings more financial loss. Avoid bringing this up in the first half of the year; it's likely to cause financial loss, or make the other party fight you for the child and money. You can bring it up in the Xu month, which will relatively ease the unfavorable factors. Looking further ahead, the best and most aligned divorce year with your original chart is the Bing Wu year. When Chou and Wu clash, the metal within Chou is damaged — that is the timing for divorce. In the Wu year, you can look for the Wu month or Xu month. Overall, getting the divorce certificate will be after the Xu month of 2025, into 2026.

八字的夫妻星是丑中金，需要见[redacted]外地支拉动丑土的时候可以领证。你的八字走乙巳年的时候，自己来主导巳，但是巳家内外都有，都和丑土有关联，就还是不好离婚。这一年的上半年走乙木，耗财也多，上半年要避开提这个事儿，容易造成破财，或者对方和你抢人抢钱。在戌月的时候可以提，能相对缓解不利。往后看，最好也是最符合原局的离婚年份，是丙午年，丑午穿，丑中金被坏，就是离婚的婚期，午年可以寻找午月或者戌月。总体拿到离婚证也是在2025年戌月之后到2026年。

2月2日 18:48

Client

Mm-hmm, so if I do it in the first half of the year, he'll fight me for the child too, right? Because our daughter starts primary school in September, and I plan not to go back to the house anymore. Before, I used to go back on weekends for the child, but this kind of life is so painful. And what you said about [redacted] [redacted] [redacted] so I want to get the certificate done. You told me before about the Bing Wu year, I just couldn't sit still this year, because it's really torturous, it's been too long [emoji]. So it looks like the earliest I can bring this up is the Xu month this year. Will he drag it out then?

嗯嗯，也就是说如果上半年，他也会跟我抢孩子吧，因为妹妹9月就读小学了，然后我打算就不再回去家里，以前为了孩子周末我是要回去的，但是这种日子过得很痛苦，而且你说的[redacted] [redacted] [redacted]所以就想着把证拿了，之前你跟我说过丙午，我就是今年有点坐不住了，因为实在是很折磨，太久了[emoji]，那看来，我最快也得今年戌月提这事了，那到时候他会拖我吗？

Zongyuan

By the Xu month, he won't be able to drag it out

到了戌月他拖不住你了

Client

Good morning, dear Zongyuan. I brought up the divorce yesterday, and the other party agreed. The divorce certificate will be obtained next month, which is exactly the Bing Xu month. Everything is just as you said. This Shen month, I signed an agency deal for Yonyou software — it feels like a new start ❤️ Thank you for your guidance all this time. If I get the chance I'd really like to meet you in person. Over all these years, you've always given me so much encouragement. Love you

早上好，亲爱的猫猫师姐，昨天已经提出了离婚这件事，对方同意了，离婚证是下个月才会拿到，刚好丙戌月，一切跟您说的一样，这个月申月，签了用友软件的代理，也算是知道新的开始❤️感恩您一直以来的指引，有机会我非常想跟您面对面聊聊，这么多年，您一直都是给我了很多鼓励，爱你

10:33

Zongyuan

That's good. Everything is a new beginning 😀

挺好的，一切是新的开始😀

Client

Yes, after all these years, it's finally over

是的，这么多年，终于可以结束了

Zongyuan

👍

Client

Thank you for being there all this time 😌