House and family

Her mother could not be buried, and the date it moved forward

18 April 2025Jinan, Shandong Translated by AI

She asked when her mother could be buried, stuck in a family dispute. I noted two timing windows, and the first one held.

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Client

Good morning, Zongyuan.

早上好，道长

Zongyuan

What would you like to ask about?

想问什么事儿

Client

On the 8th day of the first lunar month, my mother had a dispute with her eldest son — he has not supported our parents for over 10 years. Video footage shows she was hit on the head during the argument. She passed away at midday on the 9th day of the first lunar month. Our family called the police that same day, and her body was taken to the funeral home.

正月初八，我的母亲与其大儿子（他已经有10多年没有赡养父母）发生纠纷，期间视频显示头部有被打到。于正月初九午时，母亲去世。当天家中亲眷报警处理。当天遗体被送往殡仪馆。

4月7日上午08:34

The medical examiner wanted an autopsy. I was out of town at the time, so I would not allow it to go ahead right away. I flew home immediately, and tried to arrange for no autopsy and no further legal action, so she could be buried first. But the other side would not agree. The autopsy was finally done on the 14th day of the first lunar month. It has been almost two months since my mother passed. During this time, we have cooperated with all relevant departments and staff in the investigation. We have also accepted mediation from the police station — as long as she can be buried, we forgive everything and have no objections. But because the other side keeps refusing mediation, the case has not been settled.

法医要求解剖，当时我在外地，就不许直接解剖。马上飞回家后，周旋不解剖，不追究任何责任了，入土为安先。但对方不要，最后是在正月十四解剖母亲去世已接近2月，在此期间，我们配合相关机构及工作人员调查。也接受派出所的调解，只要能入土，一切都谅解无异议，但因对方一直不接受调解，案情便一直无定论。

I would like to ask you to do a divination, to see if there is any way to resolve this difficulty so my mother can be buried.

想请道长卜卦，能否有什么办法可以化灾，让母亲能入土

Zongyuan

Which child are you in the family?

你是第几个孩子

Client

The third child, a daughter. I have two older brothers.

第三个，女的。前头两个哥哥

Zongyuan

Why can't she be buried right now?

现在为什么不能入土？

Client

Because the other side will not accept mediation. The back-and-forth has been complicated. The departments initially said this would be handled as a family dispute, that they could not let this become a formal case. We have accepted all of that, as long as she can be buried. But the other side will not agree.

因为对方不接受调解周旋的过程比较复杂，部门一开始说以家庭纠纷处理，不能出现一例这种案件。所有一切我们都接受了，只要能入土但对方不接受，

He just... doesn't seem to understand.

他好像，听不懂

Zongyuan

What does the eldest son want?

大儿子的诉求是什么

Client

I don't know.

不知道

Everyone involved in this whole thing can see he's digging a hole for himself. People from several departments, our own family, the village, relatives — none of us can talk any sense into him.

整件事所有人都知道他在挖坑给自己跳几个部门的人，包括我们自己，还有村里，亲戚，和他说都无用。

Zongyuan

What are the conditions for her to be buried? For example, who has to sign the paperwork?

入土的条件是什么?

When he's talking things through on his own, he almost agrees. But when his wife is there, he can't make any decisions — he has to do everything she says.

比如谁来签字?

Client

There's an application form that needs signatures from my father and all three of us children. I wrote the application and signed it. The other side won't sign.

他一个人在谈得差不多了，就能接受。老婆在，就无法做主，一切得听老婆的

Alright, that's workable. I'll look into this and get back to you later.

写一份申请书，要我爸，还有我们三都签字申请书我写了，也签了对方不肯签

Zongyuan

Okay, thank you so much.

嗯可以的

I came across your video on Douyin by chance — the one about people who have passed on.

我晚点看完了回你

Client

It was very accurate.

好，非常感谢

1. I had just gotten out of the shower and poured hot water, so there was mist in the air (does that mean it's damp in the freezer compartment where she is?) 2. I was not there when she passed away 3. I went to a Guanyin Bodhisattva festival, there were hanging bells there, and I happened to be reciting the Universal Gate Chapter of the Guanyin Sutra at the time 4. She had an existing heart condition, and was wearing red clothes during the Lunar New Year 5. There is a pond visible from the grave site, and a stone bridge not far away; we also took photos on a bridge by the water when we traveled 6. She passed away not long ago

在抖音，很偶然，打开手机看到您的视频。就是那条故人

4月7日上午08:58

Mm-hmm. That is a strong connection, yes.

很准

Yes.

1.刚洗澡好倒了热水，有水雾 (在冷冻柜，是不是比较潮湿) 2.去世的时候不在身边 3.我去参加观音菩萨旦，也有挂铃。那会正好读了观世音普门品 4.原有心脏问题，过年期间穿红色衣服 5.墓前遥望有池，不远处有石桥，去旅游在桥上水边也拍过照片 6.去世不久

Zongyuan

In BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny), there is a wei-xu punishment formation, and the seal star itself has no root. The punishment harms metal, so gui water has no source — that is why her lifespan was not long. After passing, she can rest when she meets metal and connects with earth. This year, there are two time windows for that: one is Geng Chen month (April 5 to May 5 in the solar calendar), and the other is the autumn shen and you months (August 7 to October 7). A few points to note: 1. Your mother can be buried. Right now it is just a matter of waiting for the right timing. 2. Your older brother is likely to come around and agree to the burial during one of the two time windows I mentioned, so she can be laid to rest. Looking at the I Ching divination reading: [redacted] also shows misfortune first, then good fortune — trouble first, then resolution. There is an element of force in this hexagram, similar to enforced action, meaning your brother will be compelled to go along with it. The timing again points to the months where metal overcomes wood — the April window and autumn I mentioned above. You can also turn to judicial channels for help, such as filing a lawsuit, getting a judgment or mediation agreement, then enforcing it. A few adjustments for you personally: 1. Put all photos of your mother in the house away, keep them in a drawer. Do not leave them out in the open.

嗯嗯

4月7日上午09:08

I was planning to go to the inspector's office today to push for progress on the paperwork, because the relevant departments are all hesitant to make a decision. But I wanted to wait for your reply first. Every time there's a little progress, it hits a wall again soon after. Then I can go over tomorrow.

确实感应比较深

Client

Alright. [image]

是的

Zongyuan

Zongyuan, we have a small suitcase with a combination lock at home. Would that work? [image]

八字见未戌刑，且印星本身无根，刑则伤金，癸水没有来源，因此寿数不长，在故去之后，需要见金接地的时候可以安息，对应到今年有两个时间点，一个是庚辰月（阳历4.5-5.5），一个是秋季的申酉月（8.7-10.7）。几个提示方向： 1 母亲可以落葬，目前至少应期，也就是时间问题。 2 你的大哥在我上面讲到的两个时间点里容易开窍，同意下葬，入土为安。看一下梅花卦的提示： [redacted]也是先凶后吉，先折腾后摆平，这个卦里有强制信息，类似于强行执行，胁迫你大哥必须要这么干，应期看也是金克木的月份，也就是我上面说的4月和秋季。司法力量还是可以借助一下，比如起诉，拿到判决或者调解书之后执行。几个化解手段（调理你自身） 1 家里所有母亲的照片都收起来，放在抽屉里。不要外露。

Client

Yes, that's fine.

我本打算今天督察去催开证明进度。因为几个相关部门都不敢拍板又想先等您这边回复。因为之前每次有一点进展，很快就受阻那我明天可以直接过去

Zongyuan

Good morning, Zongyuan.

好的 [image]

Client

[rose emoji]

道长，家里有一个带密码锁的小行李箱，可以吗

4月7日下午16:05

After following up with the inspector and petition office recently, they notified me this morning that I can go pick up the cremation permit today. If this is real, and not another false lead like the last few times, we can arrange the burial in the next few days. The final decision on the case is no criminal filing, only administrative penalty.

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4月7日下午16:13

Zongyuan

That's very good. Keep up the arrangement at home as we discussed.

可以滴

Client

After the burial, do I still keep the arrangement the same way?

道长，早上好

昨天07:33

Zongyuan

Keep it as is for six months after the burial.

[rose]