A mother’s control was getting in the way of her daughter’s marriage
She asked about her cousin’s marriage outlook. I told her the mother needed to step back first, not the daughter.
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Zongyuan
Her BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny) is mostly balanced. Her spouse star is Wei earth, located outside the home palace. There is also Yi Wei outside the home, with parallel star and seal star combined — this points to involvement in triangular relationships. The partners she meets may already be married or have girlfriends, or they may cheat after they start dating. This pattern repeats often in her love life. The Zi Wei clash means internal conflict. Between 2022 and 2023 she had emotional issues, and was prone to depression because of relationships. Her chart calls for late marriage. She can only marry in years when fire, earth, and water align. There is a chance of a quick marriage in 2025. If she does not marry that year, the next possible marriage window is after 2027. If she marries around 2027, children will likely come around the same time, with pregnancy and birth also around 2027. Her seal star is exposed, and the output star represents her own thoughts — this means her family interferes too much, and the young woman feels torn because of her parents’ opinions. So the parents need to step back from decision-making for now, and let her make her own choices. Her spouse is Wei earth: he wears glasses, is of average height, between 175 and 180 cm, and works in education, healthcare, or a creative design field.
八字基本平衡，夫妻星是未土，在家外。
同时家外还有乙未，比劫也带印，就参
与三角恋爱。找的对象有家室或者有女
友，也可以是交往后对象劈腿，且感情
里经常遇到这样的事情。
子未穿就是自我纠结，在2022-2023年
还有情绪问题，因为感情容易有抑郁情
绪。八字要晚婚，火到土到水到的年份
才可以结婚，2025年有闪婚的机会，这
一年如果不结婚，那么结婚年份要到在
2027年以后才可有。如果是2027年左
右结婚，那么孩子多数是同步来，也在
2027年左右怀孕生子。
这个八字的印星透出，食伤是她的想法，
代表家里干涉也太多，小孩因为父母的
想法感到纠结。所以父母要暂时退出参
与决策，让小孩自己取舍。
配偶是未土，戴眼镜，身高一般，在
175-180之间，做教育行业，或者是医
疗，设计创造的行业。
Please take this.
请收
Client
I’ll ask my aunt to introduce people to her along these lines [emoji]. She was really down in 22 and 23, she even hurt herself.
我让我我阿姨按照你这个方向给她介绍[emoji]
22-23她确实非常低落还试过自己伤害
自己
Zongyuan
Yes, depression caused by relationship issues.
嗯 感情导致的抑郁症
Tell her mother to get less involved, less interfering, less controlling.
让她妈少参与，少干涉，少指挥
Give the girl some freedom.
给孩子点自由
Client
[emoji] My aunt has very high standards.
[emoji]我阿姨要求很高
Zongyuan
That’s why it’s all connected in a chain.
所以这都是连环套
If she keeps controlling like this, the girl will not be able to get married.
如果还要这样指挥，孩子不能结婚
The parent has to recognize the problem first, and understand how serious it is.
家长自己要先认识问题，知道严重性
Client
My aunt calls me for an hour at a time to talk about this [emoji].
我阿姨一个电话打一小时跟我说这个事[emoji]
Zongyuan
Controlling parents create children who are stuck in indecision.
控制欲家长就会创造出纠结的孩子
The one who needs to see a professional is not the child, it’s the child’s mother.
该看病的不是孩子，是孩子她妈
You go talk some sense into her first.
你先好好教育教育
Client
Okay [emoji]. Is it good for her daughter to come to Guangzhou for her marriage? If she comes, at least she’ll be out of her mom’s sight.
嗯[emoji] 她女儿来广州对婚姻有利吗，过来也好，可以离开她妈妈的视线
Zongyuan
A girl this old, and her mother still tries to control everything — that’s a misaligned role.
这么大孩子了，妈妈还要管这管那，这就是角色定位不准确
It is good. The partner she meets in 2027 will definitely not meet her mother’s approval. If her mother makes a fuss again then, the marriage will not happen.
有利，接下来就是27年找的对象她妈肯定不满意，如果这一次还要闹，那就不能结婚了
Client
Yes. I’ll talk to my aunt later, show her the screenshots. If she doesn’t even listen to what Zongyuan says, things won’t turn out well.
是的 我回头跟我阿姨说，截图给她看，猫猫说的都不听肯定要没好结果
Zongyuan
Thanks for your help [emoji].
辛苦了[emoji]
Client
I’ll work on my aunt, then get her daughter to come work here.
我跟我阿姨做一下工作，然后让她女儿过来这边工作