She asked about a relationship with a married man

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Mm, I’ll get back to you after I look it over later

Your BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny) has you born in the first lunar month (Yin month). Your spouse star is Chen earth within your home chart, but Chen earth marks Jia wood as 3 — so multiple marriages are a given for you. Also, your love life is messy: it’s not just you being unfaithful, your partner also has outside romantic interests. And the person you like is Wu earth; Wu earth sits on Yin wood, meaning the person you like is already married. On top of being torn between two men, you have other romantic prospects too. This is just the setup of your chart — you have what’s called a love calamity, and these years are when you’re going through it.

First, about your own marriage ending and remarrying: the Bing Wu and Ding Wei luck pillars are the timing for separation. That means your divorce will happen between 2026 and 2027, no later than 2027. Starting in 2028, new romantic缘分 comes along, and you can remarry. I’ll go into what your second spouse will be like further down.

Next, about your relationship with this married man. He’s Wu earth. In the Year of Jia Chen (2024) your relationship was relatively good. Once we enter the Year of Yi Si (2025), it’s more you liking him on your side. You two will have conflicts, and the relationship won’t last long — at the latest, you’ll break up between 2026 and 2027.

As long as you’re in a marriage, there will be romantic temptations in your chart. So if you want to keep your second marriage stable, you’ll need to have boundaries and be more considerate of your partner.

Please take this in

That won’t work either. He has his own family conflicts to deal with.

2027 is a hurdle for you. From my perspective, I’d suggest cutting your losses now. Otherwise there could be big problems with your reputation.

Since there’s new romantic缘分 in 2028, why not look for something simpler and more straightforward?

Love calamities are draining by nature. But relationships aren’t the only thing in life. You should take a longer view — figuring out how to build a good life is the real priority. You have choices in your own marriage, and no one can interfere with that. But expecting a married man to leave his family or stay with you forever doesn’t align with how things work. Since there’s no long-term缘分 here, it’s better to step back and look at other options.

Both of them.

Mm, that’s exactly what’s there. It’s even harder to control when you’re long-distance.

I think the relationship is secondary right now. Focus on getting your life and mood in order first.

Start with doing well at work. Things will get a bit better in April and May. Carry a small silver ox with you, and try acupuncture to help with your mood.

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