She asked about her son’s school performance
A client asked about her 8-year-old son’s studies. I read his BaZi and suggested exploring a sports specialty path instead of pushing for top academic grades.
The screenshots were masked before they were posted. Names, avatars and birth details are covered in the originals; where a translated line reads [redacted], the source was covered too and nothing has been guessed.
Client
Hello Zongyuan
猫猫道长你好
I’d like to ask about my son’s studies, is that okay?
想问问儿子学业可以吗
Good morning Zongyuan
猫猫道长早
09:59
Zongyuan
Send me his BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny).
八字提供给我
10:55
Client
2017 [redacted]
2017年[redacted]
Male
男
Zongyuan
Lunar calendar or solar calendar?
阴历还是阳历
Client
Solar calendar
新历
Zongyuan
Alright.
好的
Client
Do you need me to tell you about his current study state?
需要说说他的学习状态给您听吗
10:57
Zongyuan
No need.
不用的
From the full chart [redacted], the child lacks patience and shows signs of restlessness. He is quite sharp by nature, but not steady—he looks for shortcuts in both studies and tasks. Metal is the useful element in this chart, coming from the year pillar. Though he is still young, it already shows: his studies only move forward when the family watches over him. He has no self-discipline. You nudge him, and he moves a little.
He will have difficulty following the standard academic path of competing for top school rankings. It will be hard for him to stand out academically, but he can develop a skill in sports or the arts. I suggest parents explore that direction and consider a specialty path, where he will have more advantage.
From next year through 2027, his studies will be quite challenging. Be prepared for this. It has some connection to the school environment, and he will not get along very smoothly with classmates and teachers. Things will gradually improve in 2028.
His final education level will be around a second-tier undergraduate degree. Consider fields related to internet, sports and arts, healthcare, military or police work, and creative design.
全局的[redacted]，小孩
耐性不足，有点多动的倾向。此外本
身还算挺机灵的，但是不踏实，学习
做事都想要走捷径。全局用金，金从
年上来，目前虽然年纪小，但是已经
展现出了一点：学习全靠家里看着，
没有自觉性。你们催一催，他动一
动。
这个八字之后要走卷校内学历的道路
有困难，学业上很难拔尖，但是在文
体上可以有一技之长，建议家长发掘
下， 考虑走特长道路，小孩更加有优
势。
明年开始到2027年，学习会挺吃力
的，要做好心理准备，和学校环境有
一定关系，和同学老师相处也不算和
谐。到了2028年逐渐好转了。
最终学历在二本左右，考虑互联网，
文体，医疗，军警，创意设计类的方
向。
Please take note.
请收
11:13
Client
Got it, that’s right. Is there anything we can do to improve this, Zongyuan?
收到，是的，可以怎么处理会好一点，
猫猫道长
Zongyuan
What is his current state like?
他现在表现出来是什么状态
Is he in first grade or second grade right now?
这会是一年级还是二年级？
11:14
Client
8 years old, third grade. He just can’t seem to take in what he’s learning. He sits there all day not knowing what he’s doing. He picks answers randomly on exercises, just to get them done. If you say a word to him he gets angry. If you try to talk to him he just brushes you off, and never changes. His grades are very poor.
8岁，三年级，就是有种学不进去的感
觉，一天坐着也不知道在干嘛，做题
随便选择，完成就了事的状态，说他
两句就生气，跟他聊几句就忽悠一下，
但是从来不改正，成绩很差
Zongyuan
Who was guiding his early learning at home in 2021-2022? There was a little progress back then. It started going downhill from 2023.
2021-2022年你们家里是谁在给他他
学习启蒙？那时候稍微有点成效。
2023年开始就不行了。
Client
I’ve always been the one taking care of him.
一直都是我在带
Zongyuan
Hmm, it’s innate for him—like having “brain fog”, unable to focus.
嗯，他天生的，就是“有脑雾”的那种
感觉，无法专注。
Client
Exactly!
的确是！
Zongyuan
Was it that you spent more time with him back then, and now you’re busier and have less time to watch over him?
那时候是不是你带他的时间长，现在你忙的多了，看他时间少。
Client
I’ve always been the one taking care of him. Yes, later I got busier with work. When he was in first and second grade, his foundation was already weak. I tutored him myself at first, but he cried all the time, so I sent him to after-school care. I couldn’t teach him anymore. He just started third grade recently, and the work got harder all at once. Plus his attitude is very bad now.
一直都是我在带
是的，后来我工作也比较忙，到一二年级的时候，他本来基础比较差，开始也是我自己辅导的，后来他经常哭，我就让他去托管了，我教不来，最近刚三年级，一下子更难了，而且状态态度很差
Zongyuan
Hmm, you are his “stabilizing force”. If you tutor him less and spend less time with him, his state gets worse.
嗯，你是他的“定心丸”，你如果辅导少了，陪伴少了，他的状态就加重。
11:20
I’ll give you a few suggestions, you can try adjusting things this way.
我给你几个建议，你试试看调整
Client
Okay.
好
Lately I feel like I can’t get out of this myself. I also have disagreements with his dad about education. I’m so anxious. I did okay in school when I was young, I have a bachelor’s degree. I never thought my child would be like this. I’ve really reflected on it for a long time.
最近，我感觉我自己走不出来，本身在教育问题上跟他爸爸也有分歧，我很焦虑，因为我小时候成绩也算可以的，学士学位，没想到，孩子会这种状态，所以我真的反思了很久
Zongyuan
1. Do as I say and find a non-academic path for him. He can do ball sports. See which specific one he likes, then stick with training.
2. Either you tutor him yourself, or find a long-term tutor who can stay consistent. He needs daily supervision. If you get a tutor, look for someone with the surnames Sun, Jin, or Wang. Gender doesn’t matter.
3. Buy him a [redacted] pendant. Have him wear it on him, or hang it on his pencil case.
4. From what I see, there are a lot of dog-themed things in your house—figurines, plush toys, patterns on clothes, toys. Look carefully, and get rid of all of them once you find them.
1 你按照我说的，给他找一条非学习道
路，他走球类运动可以，你看看具体
他喜欢哪一块，那么就坚持训练。
2 要么是你自己带，要么你找一个家
教，要长期可以持续的。每天要盯着，
如果是家教，找姓孙，金，王的，男
女不限制。
3 你给他买一个[redacted]挂件，随身佩戴，或者挂笔袋上。
4 我现在看你家里，有很多狗的摆件，
玩偶，衣服的图案，玩具，你仔细找
找，找到了全部处理掉。
Hmm, you are very anxious, I can see that.
嗯，你也很焦虑，我可以看到
Client
Zongyuan, it’s true! My daughter loves dogs! The younger sister is 5, she has so many dog toys! Really.
猫猫道长，真的！因为我女儿喜欢
狗！妹妹5岁，有很多很多狗的玩
具！真的
Zongyuan
Hmm, I saw that [emoji]
嗯，我看到了[emoji]
Client
That’s so surprising.
好神奇
Also about the first point you mentioned, ball sports—he used to play basketball. But starting this year, he keeps saying he doesn’t want to go. I was curious about that too.
另外您说的第一点，球类运动，之前是打篮球的，就是今年开始，他一直说不去，我也很好奇
Zongyuan
The sports path is the right one for him. You have to keep it going.
打球的路子走的对，要坚持下去
This year, pay attention to his mood. He won’t get along well with peers and teachers, and is easily provoked by words.
今年你要注意小孩情绪，他和同辈 老师相处不愉快，容易被言语刺激。
Talk to your child. He will tell you the real reason.
嗯 你和孩子聊聊，他会告诉你真正的原因的
Client
He gets provoked by words very easily. His emotions are out of control, so I usually don’t dare to upset him. He will yell and throw things 😭
他很容易受言语刺激的，情绪也是那种不受控的，所以我平时叶不太敢激怒他，他会大喊大叫扔东西😭
About the tutoring issue—maybe I’m anxious myself, and I get angry easily too. Zongyuan, do you think I should step back and just be present, or keep following along like before?
就是在这个辅导的问题上，可能我自己也焦虑，我也很容易发火，猫猫道长认为我辅导的时候是应该放手陪伴还是继续像以前那样跟着呢?
11:37
Zongyuan
You need to stay steady yourself, then be present and tutor him. Right now the goal is not high accuracy in his work. The goal is that he can sit still, stick with a task until it’s done, and have a serious attitude.
你自己要稳定，然后陪伴 + 辅导，目前要求不是他正确率要高 而是可以坐得住就可以 能坚持下来做完，有认真的态度。
As for what scores he gets—they don’t matter at this stage.
至于考几分 这个阶段不重要