She asked about her daughter’s school progress
A client asked if her daughter would catch up academically before middle school. I looked at her BaZi and laid out the key years ahead.
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Client
Zongyuan, I need to trouble you with something again. I want to ask about my daughter’s studies and her future direction. Will she ever catch on? She’s starting middle school entrance exams next semester, and her current state is really hard to put into words. Do you still have her BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny)?
貓貓道長，有件事又要麻煩您幫我看一下，我想問一下我女兒的學業方面，以後的發展方向，她會開竅嗎，下學期開始考初中，現在的狀態看著真的一言難盡。您還有她生辰八字嗎?
Zongyuan
Send it to me again. I’ll take a look later.
你重新发我吧 我晚点看下
Client
Lunar calendar [redacted]
農曆[redacted]
Thank you so much [emoji][emoji][emoji]
謝謝你啊[emoji][emoji][emoji]
Zongyuan
Got it.
好
I’ll get back to you later.
晚点回复
14:50
Client
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15:17
Zongyuan
In her BaZi chart, [redacted]. The [redacted] in the full chart is the key point of strength.
八字生[redacted]，全局貝[redacted]为贵点。
小孩未来学习上还是会开窍，但是需要一定时间。
几个重要节点：
1 小孩在2025-2027年之间基本都很难崭露头角，一方面学校环境一般，不利于她发展，一方面这期间竞争关系激烈，基本都是在中游的水平上下
The child will eventually catch on in her studies, but it will take some time.
A few key points:
1. Between 2025 and 2027, she will have a hard time standing out. On one hand, the school environment will be average and not good for her development. On the other, competition will be fierce during this period. She will mostly stay around the middle of her class.
2. Starting in 2028, she will gradually improve. 2028 and 2029 will be two strong years, with 2029 being better.
3. No matter how she does in daily studies, she tends to underperform on big exams and is not in good shape then. For example, she might be in the top 20% normally, but drop to upper-middle on major exams. You should be prepared for this.
4. Her final education level will be a bachelor’s degree, but she will not be top of her class. It will be between a first-tier and second-tier university — a good major at a second-tier school, or a less popular major at a first-tier one. For school location, I suggest local schools, or schools west or northwest of home. Beijing and Nanjing are also good for her development. For majors, focus on healthcare, finance, equipment, artificial intelligence, new energy, or molecular materials.
5. Relationships are something to keep an eye on throughout her studies. She really needs recognition from groups or close friends, but her friendships come and go. Parents need to guide her properly and help her build a healthy view of friendships.
几个重要节点:
1 小孩在2025-2027 年之间基本都很难崭露头角，一方面学校环境一般，不利于她发展，一方面这期间竞争关系激烈，基本都是在中游的水平上下波动。
2 进入2028年开始逐渐开始进步，其中2028-2029年是比较优秀的两年，其中29年更好。
3 小孩不管日常学习咋样，到了大考就容易比较拉胯，状态不够好，比如平时可以到前20%，进入大考又是中游偏上的水平，这个要有心理准备。
4 最后学历在本科，但是本科里不算拔尖，在一二本之间，好点的专业在二本，冷门的在一本。学校建议考本地的，或者家里西边，西北侧的，也可以考虑北京，南京这两处有利于发展，专业上在医疗，金融，器械，人工智能，新能源，分子材料这几个为主。
5 人际关系是学业里需要持续关注的点，她挺需要集体或者好友的认可的，但是和好友的关系也是一阵阵，需要付父母正确引导，建立正确的交友观念。
Please take this.
请收
Client
Got it. It’s true her grades are average — she’s in the middle of her class, and a bit below middle in the grade ranking. She doesn’t not know how to do her homework, but she almost always gets sick during exams. Or she’ll get questions wrong on tests that she’s been taught before. It’s been hard to improve, so I sent her to tutoring. The tutoring fees are quite high every month. Should I keep pushing her hard? Also, about relationships — in first to third grade, she barely had any friends. Her teachers said she seemed very lonely. This year, in fifth grade, she’s made more friends and seems more outgoing. But the question is, will she be led astray? I’m not as worried about grades being fixed — what I fear most is bad friends influencing her badly. Her character and morals can’t slip. What can I do to help her?
收到，確實成績平平，在班裏排中間，
年級排名也是在中間靠下一點點，平
時做作業，也不是不會，但考試就每
次幾乎都生病，要麼就平常有教她的
題目，考試時遇到也會做錯。怎麼也
難提高，後來我就讓她去補習了，每
個月補習費用都挺多的，我還要特意
去雞娃嗎? 另外人際關係，小學一到
三年級是不交什麼朋友的，老師都說
她好像很孤獨，今年小學五年級才朋
友多起來，性格好像也開朗了不少。
但問題是，她會被帶壞嗎? 學習好不
好都注定了，最怕交了壞朋友帶壞了，
做人和品行不能差。我有什麼可以幫
到她嗎?
Zongyuan
She won’t be led astray. Just help her get used to the fact that friend groups change often.
不会被带坏，让她要习惯朋友圈子经常会换就行了
16:46
For this child, take a relaxed approach to pushing her studies. No need to make a big deal out of it. It’s not necessary.
这个孩子 佛系鸡娃就行 不要搞得大张旗鼓，没必要
Happiness is the most important thing.
快乐点最好
Client
Yeah, her dad and I talked about it. We’ve been making our daughter so miserable, and we’ve both been confused. That’s why I came to you for help again.
嗯，是我和她爸商量了，搞得女兒好
像也很辛苦，我們倆都迷茫了，所以
又求助於您了。
Zongyuan
The child is very kind, that’s good. The main thing to watch for is her feelings being hurt by other kids. That’s what parents need to teach her about.
小孩很善良，挺好的，主要是怕被其他小孩伤害感情，这是父母要培养和教育的。
Everything else can take its course.
其他的顺其自然
Client
Before kindergarten, her teachers thought very highly of her — smart, well-behaved, even the principal noticed her and made her a student representative. When she was 5, she was hurt by a friend once. She cried before bed for days and days, and was heartbroken for a long time. She cares a lot about relationships. We comforted her for a while, and then we started talking to her now and then about how to handle friendships. Now in elementary school, she seems like a struggling student. As parents, we don’t know how to feel about it. Plus, this is her first big exam in life. To be honest, I’m the one who’s nervous — she doesn’t seem stressed at all.
幼兒園以前，老師對她評價很高，聰明，守紀律，甚至得到校長的償識，做學生代表。5歲時試過被朋友傷害過，幾天幾夜睡覺前都哭，傷心了很久，她重情，我們也安慰了好一段時間，後來我們就時不時跟她說朋友的關係如何處理。現在小學變得差生一樣，我們做父母的心態一時不知如何是好，加上又要人生的第一次大考，說實了是我做父母的緊張，她就好像沒什麼緊張。
16:54
Zongyuan
Mm-hmm.
嗯呢
For you two, this is all part of the learning [emoji]
对你们来说，都是功课[emoji]
Client
Yes, we’re learning how to be parents. We’re also reflecting on how to do better. Thank you, Zongyuan [emoji]
是的，我們也學著做父母，我們也在檢討自己如何做得好。謝謝您，道長[emoji]
16:59
Zongyuan
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