Her daughter’s exam week, and the friend issue I’d mentioned
I told her to watch for relationship issues affecting her daughter’s studies. She wrote back during exams to say it had happened exactly as described.
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Zongyuan
3. No matter how the child does in daily studies, she tends to underperform in major exams and her state is not good enough. For example, she can rank in the top 20% normally, but drops to upper-middle level in big exams. You should be mentally prepared for this.
4. Her final education level will be a bachelor’s degree, but she will not be top of her cohort. Her grades will fall between first-tier and second-tier university entry levels: she can get into a second-tier school with a good major, or a first-tier school with a less popular major. For school choices, I suggest local ones, or schools west / northwest of home. Beijing and Nanjing are also beneficial for her development. Suitable majors include healthcare, finance, medical equipment, artificial intelligence, new energy, and molecular materials.
5. Interpersonal relationships are a point that needs ongoing attention in her studies. She really needs recognition from groups or close friends, but her friendships come and go. Parents need to guide her properly and help her build a healthy view of friendships.
3 小孩不管日常学习咋样，到了大考
就容易比较拉胯，状态不够好，比如
平时可以到前 20%，进入大考又是中
游偏上的水平，这个要有心理准备。
4 最后学历在本科，但是本科里不算
拔尖，在一二本之间，好点的专业在
二本，冷门的在一本。学校建议考本
地的，或者家里西边，西北侧的，也
可以考虑北京，南京这两处有利于发
展，专业上在医疗，金融，器械，人
工智能，新能源，分子材料这几个为
主。
5 人际关系是学业里需要持续关注的
点，她挺需要集体或者好友的认可的，
但是和好友的关系也是一阵阵，需要
付父母正确引导，建立正确的交友观
念。
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11月20日16:45
Client
Zongyuan, I asked about my daughter’s studies a few days ago, and I’m writing to give you feedback today. The result is exactly what you said. She’s been doing fine in practice tests these days, but today, the second day of exams, she was backstabbed by a classmate. A girl she usually plays with teamed up with another kid who’s been picking on her since third grade to bully her. She says she has no mood for anything and doesn’t even want to take the exams. It’s going to take a few days to calm her down again.
貓貓道長，前些天問了女兒的學業，
今天跟你反饋一下，和你說的一毛一
樣結果😤。這幾天在考試，做練習什
麼的都還可以，今天是考試的第二天，
就受同學背刺了，平時一起玩的同學，
合夥一個平時較調皮而且從三年級欺
負到現在的人，一起來欺負我女兒了，
啊，女兒說做什麼都沒心情，考試都
不想考。這心情的安撫，又得持續幾
天了。
16:24
Zongyuan
Mm, that’s how these patterns play out.
嗯，这就是命运😁
If she wants to improve, she needs to keep working on understanding relationships. She has to learn that the people around her are not that important, and put her own feelings first. Only when she steps out of that dynamic will her studies improve.
她如果想要进步，就要不断理解人际
关系，知道身边人没有那么重要，自
己的感受放在第一位。脱离出来之后，
学业上才能有起色。
Of course this takes time. After a few more incidents, she’ll get the hang of it.
当然了这需要要时间，多来几次她就
有数了。
Client
So she has to learn to process these feelings on her own and grow slowly.
那就是她要自己學著心理消化，慢慢
成長。
Zongyuan
Mm, that’s right. Parents should help her analyze the problem and guide her through it.
嗯对，父母要给她剖析问题，带她走
出来
Client
Mm, I really need to learn how to do that. Wow, I didn’t expect kids her age to be so calculating. It’s scary.
嗯，我真的要學一下，哇，想不到現
在的小孩(她的同學朋友)那麼有心計
的，好可怕