A 3-year-old’s personality, and how to parent him
A client asked about her young son’s personality and peer relationships. I read his BaZi and shared notes on his learning style and temperament.
The screenshots were masked before they were posted. Names, avatars and birth details are covered in the originals; where a translated line reads [redacted], the source was covered too and nothing has been guessed.
Zongyuan
Metal is the preferred element in his BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny). Focus on science subjects, with physics and chemistry as main areas of study.
3. Approach to education
His chart has strong wealth and authority stars, with the authority star close to the day master and his lu star clashing the wu branch externally.
He likes to handle everything himself and has very strong opinions of his own.
Do not use a controlling parenting style. All decisions related to his studies need to be discussed with him. Second, the zi-wei clash means he is impatient, likes to take shortcuts, and lacks endurance. This can be an area to work on — cultivate carefulness and focus from a young age.
八字首选用金，选择理科为主，物理化学为主攻方向。
3 教育思路
八字财杀两旺，杀贴身，禄在外冲午，
凡事喜欢亲力亲为，且自己很有想法，
切记包办式教育，和小孩学习相关的决策都需要和他商量。二是子未穿小孩急躁，做事情喜欢走捷径，耐性不足，这可以作为攻克方向，从小培养细致和专注力。
Please take this.
请收
Client
Zongyuan, this is so accurate.
猫猫老师太厉害了
That’s exactly his personality [emoji][emoji][emoji]
这个性格就是这样[emoji][emoji][emoji]
Will he have trouble getting along with his classmates?
小孩和同学相处会不会难
Zongyuan
No, but there will be a lot of conflicts, because he likes to force others to change their minds.
不会 但矛盾多，因为他喜欢强制改变他人想法
He insists everyone does things his way.
非要听他的
His peers feel the pressure, but he is fine with it.
同辈有压力 他倒还好
Client
That’s really how it is [emoji]
真是这样[emoji]
Zongyuan
It’s the other kids’ parents who will be worried.
愁的是其他孩子爸妈
Not your son.
不是你儿子
Rest early. Send him off to school soon [emoji]
早点休息 早日丢他去读书[emoji]
Let him go stir up trouble elsewhere.
去嚯嚯别人
Client
We’ve already gotten complaints from the parents of the kid downstairs many times [emoji]
已经被楼下小孩家长投诉很多次[emoji]
Zongyuan
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