She asked about what was wrong in her marriage
She asked what was wrong in her marriage. I asked for her BaZi to look over later.
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Client
This is what he said just now when things blew up. If we want to keep going, it has to be his way.
这是刚刚闹开他说的 如果要过的话
Zongyuan, could you take a look at this marriage when you have time? I want to know what's wrong, and what my own issues are.
就按他说的
Send me your BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny). I'll look at it later.
老师 有机会帮我观观这段婚姻吧，到底那里出了问题 也让我知道自己的问题所在
13:47
Zongyuan
Both of ours?
八字发我吧，我晚点看看
13:47
Client
1995 [redacted]
我们两的?
1993 [redacted]
1995年[redacted])
He's two years older than me.
1993年[redacted]
That's incredible.
他比我大两岁
Zongyuan: Yihai [redacted] ⏎ The spouse star in the BaZi is [redacted]
神了
I found out last year.
猫猫道长_宗园🔥: 乙亥 [redacted]
八字的夫妻星是 [redacted]
I really did find out he was talking to another woman last year.
去年被我发现
Mm, last year was the Year of Jia Chen. Jia clashes with Geng. Did you find out from his phone or shopping records?
他确实是去年被我发现和女人联系了
Zongyuan
Yes.
嗯，去年是甲辰年，甲冲庚，是看到
手机或者购物记录了是么
Client
We had a big fight about it last year, and I still have all the evidence on my USB drive.
有
This year he's not hiding it anymore [emoji]
去年跟他就闹过一场，然后证据现在都
在我的U盘儿里。
Zongyuan
And it's true, for a long time last year he was really cold to me. He said I was annoying, and wouldn't sleep in the same room as me.
今年他不藏了[emoji]
Client
Actually, once you understand one thing, you'll have a lot less trouble. That is, all past events can be traced back and seen. So many things are set. Fate is just a matter of how long two people stay together. Then you won't get stuck or torment yourself over it.
而且，真的是去年有很长一段时间，他
都很对我很漠视，就是觉得我烦，而且
不跟我睡一个房间。
Zongyuan
Also, when I met him in 2015 or 2016, I met another guy at the same time. He's older, 35 now, and still not married. After I got married, he'd still send me gifts, birthday red envelopes, on and off. From 2016 to 2018 he contacted me pretty often. Later I realized he commented on every one of my social media posts. But from 2020 to 2023, we barely talked for three years. Why did we suddenly start talking again in 2024 and 2025?
实际呢，当你想明白一个事儿之后，
你就会少很多烦恼，那就是前事都可
以反推看到，那么很多事儿都是注定
的，缘分就是人和人在一起的时间问
题，你也就不纠结不内耗了。
Client
But Zongyuan, you can probably tell I'm not completely innocent in this either.
然后这个时候呢，其实我认识，我一六年一五年认识他的时候，同时也认识了一个男生，他比我大他35岁了，到现在都没有结婚，这是我结了婚以后。他也会给我邮一些礼物呀，生日发红包啥的，断断续续。就是你看，从16年到18年的，基本就是频繁联系我，后来才。后来才发现是我的这个啥啊，每条说说空间和朋友圈都有他的评论，但是到这个2020年到。2023年，这三年我们几乎就没联系了。为什么2024年到2025年就莫名其妙我们又给聊聊开天儿了。
14:48
Mm, so there's no right or wrong in relationships. We can only say, next time we're in a relationship, we'll try to do better.
但是，师傅，你一定能看出来，我也没有说能把自己摘的很干净。
Zongyuan
And you were right, it's not him who looks down on my family. It's his mom. Because I run my own business, and he works in the government system.
嗯，所以感情这个事儿不论对错，我们只能是说，下一回再有感情，争取做得更好。
14:29
Client
[left] And you're right. It's not that he looks down on my family. It's his mother who looks down on my family. Because I'm self-employed, and he works in the public sector.
而且你说的很对，他不是看不起我家，是他妈看不起我家。因为我是自主创业，他是在体制内。