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A Qi Men reading about an on-again first love

5 August 2025Jinan, Shandong Translated by AI

She asked about her first love, with whom she kept breaking up and reconnecting. I read the Qi Men chart and walked through what I saw.

The screenshots were masked before they were posted. Names, avatars and birth details are covered in the originals; where a translated line reads [redacted], the source was covered too and nothing has been guessed.

Zongyuan

Looking at your first love again: [redacted] is in the Xun palace, with Liu He (the Six Harmonies, which relates to connection) present. But Yi Wood is in its tomb state, so lately messages have been stagnant. Still, this palace does generate your palace, meaning they do have the thought of talking to you, but it is blocked — Si Men (the Death Gate, which indicates closure or being stuck) is there, like they are holding their breath. You two will get back in touch this year and next year. It will happen when the Li trigram fills in, which is around October this year. Communication will be more frequent next year. But this relationship is still hard to sustain long-term. In 2027, old problems will come up again — you two will find it hard to get along again, and you will tend to avoid certain issues, which will bring another crisis to the relationship. (It could also be that a third party issue comes up that year, like an ex coming back, or one of you being set up on blind dates, things like that.) Another thing: this hexagram is originally in the Fire palace, but Water is strong and prosperous here. In relationships, you do not say what you really mean. The things you say tend to hurt people, or you say the opposite of what you feel. You are not very warm. If you want the relationship with her to last, you need to pay more attention to this part of your character. If you want to break the ice sooner, there are a few things you can do: 1. Be more visible. Right now you are sort of out of touch for her — she cannot see what is going on with you. You need to show a bit of yourself. 2. You can also reach out to talk to her first, about things like social [redacted]. As long as you do not give her the cold shoulder, her palace will generate yours. 3. It is about the way you communicate. Find a balance.

再看你的初恋，[redacted]在巽宫，见六合，但是乙木入墓，近期也是消息沉溺，但是确实生你宫位，还是有和你说话的想法，但是堵着（死门主锁闭），憋一口气吧。今年和明年还是会再联系上，需要离卦填实的时候，也就是今年的10月左右，此外在明年沟通会比较多。但是呢这个感情还是很难长时间持续，到了2027年又会有老问题出现，就是你俩又觉得不好相处了，且你会在某些问题里进行逃避，感情又会有危机。 (也可能是这一年出现第三者问题了，比如前任回归，或者你俩其中一个面临相亲之类的) 再一个是你这个卦本来是火宫，但是见水旺相，你在感情里心口不一，讲出来的话容易伤人，或者讲反话，不

That is exactly how it is. It is really true. We just keep breaking up and then getting back in touch after a long time.

比如前任回归，或者你俩其中一个面临相亲之类的) 再一个是你这个卦本来是火宫，但是见水旺相，你在感情里心口不一，讲出来的话容易伤人，或者讲反话，不是太温暖，如果你想要和她关系持久，那么性格上这一点也要自己多注意。如果想要提前破冰，有几个可以做的 1 多曝光，你现在对于她来说有点失联了，看不到你的情况动态，你要展示一下。 2 也可以主动找她说说话，比如社会 [redacted]，你只要不冷脸，她就可以生你。 3 就是沟通方式问题了，找一种平衡。

昨天 19:56

Client

Zongyuan, you mean I should post on my Moments occasionally, right?

确实是这样的，真的是这样，我们俩就是反反复复的断了然后过很久又联系上

Yes.

道长的意思是我偶尔发朋友圈对吧

Zongyuan

So she can see you.

对

I have been sick for half a month, so I have not been active.

让她可以看到你

Client

Mm-hmm.

因为我生病有半个月了，所以没动静

Zongyuan

Post some everyday things.

嗯呐

This is really, really accurate.

发点日常

Client

Is the part about your character accurate? [emoji]

真的真的好准哦

Zongyuan

Scarily accurate. It is really like that. When I talk to her, I do not think before I speak. And she is the type who holds grudges, has a bad temper, gets angry over little things.

你的性格准确么[emoji]

昨天 20:06

Client

Mm, that fits.

准的可怕，确实是这样。在她地方说话容易不过没脑子，她呢又是个爱记仇的，脾气很差，动不动就生气

Zongyuan

[right] Mm, that's right.

嗯是