House and family

She asked about health and her marriage

10 June 2025Jinan, Shandong Translated by AI

A client asked about her health and marriage issues. I went over her BaZi chart and noted patterns starting from late 2023.

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Zongyuan

Okay.

好

Client

I really appreciate your help [emoji]

拜托了[emoji]

Zongyuan

I'll get back to you when I'm free this evening.

晚上空了回复你

昨天 15:22

Client

Alright, thank you so much [emoji][emoji]

好的，麻烦了[emoji][emoji]

Zongyuan

Your BaZi (known in the West as the Four Pillars of Destiny) has you born in the You month, with lu (official support) in the home chart. Water is not favorable here. Wood comes to damage this lu, so the kind of difficulties you're describing started in the second half of 2023, and became more serious in 2024. From the year chart, the first half of 2025 will still follow this pattern, with a recurring period in June and July on the solar calendar. Things start to improve a bit after autumn begins, at least your mind will feel clearer. Physically you have issues with heart-kidney imbalance, sleep, and thyroid problems. This lines up with your patterns, which is why your emotions sometimes feel out of control.

八字生在酉月，家内有禄，不喜见水木来毁禄，因此实际你说的这种不顺，从2023年下半年开始了，到2024年相对严重。从流年来看，2025奶奶上半年还是如此，且阳历的6-7也是反复的，进入秋季之后开始好转些。至少头脑上会清楚点。身体上你有心肾不交和睡眠，以及甲状腺问题，这也是和你的行为相统一，所以情绪有时候不受控制。

昨天 16:28

About your two questions: 1. Relationship with your husband and your mother-in-law. Your husband star is metal within the Si branch. These two years his capacity is low, and his career has slipped, so the family's financial situation is not as good as before. Also, his mood and personality have changed these two years, and he is less involved in household matters. Your mother-in-law is represented by You metal in your chart, which drains your lu. She does take a toll on you, and you two are not on the same path. I don't recommend frequent contact; just give gifts during festivals and holidays. You also have your own part in this. You sometimes overstep, liking to meddle in other people's affairs — for example, when you disagree with your mother-in-law, you feel you have to say something. Work on clearer boundaries, and your mood and relationships will improve. In 2026-2027 you and your husband are prone to marriage difficulties. You need to be more careful. If there are too many conflicts living together, you can consider living separately for a time. 2. The house issue. Your chart avoids water, so areas associated with water are not good for you. The house in Yangpu is just so-so. You prefer living in Puxi, such as Changning, Jing'an, or Putuo districts.

关于你的两个问题: 1 夫妻关系和婆婆的问题夫妻星是巳中金，这两年气量不足，你的对象事业也有滑坡，所以家里的经济情况上不如之前。其次你对象的情绪，性格这两年有变化，对家里的事情参与少。你婆婆在八字中为酉金，耗禄，确实是对你比较消耗，且你俩不是一路人，不建议多来往，逢年过节送礼即可。你自己也有问题，你的手有时候伸太长，喜欢管别人的事情，比如你看不惯婆婆，你要去讲，以后要更有边界感，那么情绪和人际关系也会好转。 2026-2027 年你和你对象容易有婚灾，你自己需要多注意，如果在一起矛盾多，可以考虑分居。 2 房子问题八字忌水，不喜见水地，杨浦的房子确实一般，你喜住浦西，比如长宁，静安，普陀这几个位置。

5. Wear a small gold or silver ox pendant, on your phone or keychain. It will help ease things somewhat. 6. For daily clothing, avoid pure black, and patterns of fish or waves.

5 佩戴一个金色或者银色的小牛的挂件，挂在手机或者钥匙扣上，会相对缓解。 6 日常衣服避开纯黑，鱼类，波纹类的图案。

Please take this.

请收

昨天 16:36

Client

Zongyuan, thank you so much.

道长，受我一拜

It really was bad in 2023. I even got into a car accident, had surgery on my lumbar spine, and was scammed out of money. My thyroid is bad, and I don't sleep well. I'm not sure what heart-kidney imbalance feels like, but when it was really bad before, I felt like someone was draining my yang energy every day. I was so tired all the time, like I was possessed, and had to lie down all day.

确实是2023年很严重，我甚至出了车祸，腰椎开了刀，然后钱款被骗。我甲状腺不好，睡眠不好，心肾我不知道表现在什么地方，但是我之前严重的时候，我感觉天天有人在吸我的阳气，我每天都好累好累，感觉被附身了，天天要躺着。

I understand about boundaries. But my mother-in-law is the kind of person who, even if I ignore her, will keep pushing herself on me. How should I handle this? I just think everyone should live their own lives.

边界感我明白了，但是我婆婆是一个我不理她，他一定要凑上来的人，我该如何处理？就是我认为大家各自住

Zongyuan

Also, your chart favors the God of Wealth, and you have one in your home, but it's not placed properly. Look around — is there a picture, drawing, or figurine of the God of Wealth that you've left lying around somewhere?

然后是你的八字喜财神，家里也有，但是没有好好摆着，你找找看，是不是财神到画纸，玩偶，被你乱放了

昨天 17:10

Client

Zongyuan, what do you mean? I never invited a God of Wealth statue or anything.

道长，这个什么意思呢？我没有请财神哎

Zongyuan

Look around — like a card with the God of Wealth on it, or a small toy.

找一下，比如画着财神的卡片，财神的玩具

If you see one, that's almost certainly it.

看到有，那基本上是跑不了

Search around your house and see.

你家里搜罗了看看